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Minnesota News Media Addresses Parental Alientation Syndrome!
This is a must watch news story for anyone who has ever read my blog. I have watched so many parents lose custody after being accused of Parental Alienation Syndrome and it makes me sick. If you have never researched Parental Alientaion Syndrome, I suggest you do so. This is a horrible con game that is going on. I have been outspoken about PAS for a long time and each time I challenge the system, I do so at great risk. The system does not take kindly to being challenged and neither do some of the court authority trainers.
There are two camps with much different thinking about PAS. The one camp, the legal community seems to be stuck in group think about this pseudo-syndrome which is a “syndrome” that is severely lacking in any evidence based research. That side, along with some psychologists, consider it to be a “real” mental disorder, because they have “seen” it. You can read what the Liz Library says about that, here.
The other side, mainly made up of psychologists, say that it is not a real “syndrome” or mental disorder. PAS does not exist. I am in that camp. Until I see solid evidence to the contrary, I will not be convinced. The American Psychological Association has been asked to weigh in on PAS for many years and refused again, in December, 2012, to list it as a diagnosis in the DSM-V (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, fifth edition. Here is the statement that the APA put out regarding Parental Alienation Syndrome:
“January 1, 2008
Statement on Parental Alienation Syndrome
The American Psychological
Association (APA) believes that all mental health practitioners as well
as law enforcement officials and the courts must take any reports of
domestic violence in divorce and child custody cases seriously. An APA
1996 Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family noted the lack
of data to support so-called “parental alienation syndrome”, and raised
concern about the term’s use. However, we have no official position on
the purported syndrome.
The American Psychological
Association (APA), in Washington, DC, is the largest scientific and
professional organization representing psychology in the United States
and is the world’s largest association of psychologists. APA’s
membership includes more than 150,000 researchers, educators,
clinicians, consultants and students. Through its divisions in 53
subfields of psychology and affiliations with 60 state, territorial and
Canadian provincial associations, APA works to advance psychology as a
science, as a profession and as a means of promoting human welfare.”
So who do you think is more qualified to diagnose a mental illness, if it was a true illness? PAS is a con game, designed to keep you fighting in court. It has been designed as a method of attack against the other parent, when one’s life is so out of control that the person cannot own up to their own part in why their children are afraid of them or prefer not to visit them, they have to blame it on someone. If they didn’t, they might have to look at their own chemical dependency issues, abusive relationships, and anger issues, and do something about it. People in denial about their issues, do not want to look within.
Seriously, listen to this Dad’s angry messages on his daughters’ phones below and then ask yourself this, “If anyone in my life left messages like those for me, would I want to go send time with that person?”
Kids grow up. Those girls will soon be adults and they will know the truth of what they experienced from both parents. There will not be a judge, at that point, to “force” your children to have a relationship with you and so I will say this:
If your kids do not want to spend time with you, look within. If you truly focus on your children and are present in their lives, and treat them with love and respect, your kids will know who you really are. They will know if the other parent railed against you and told lies about you. Trust in your children. And for God’s sake, get your children OUT of the family court system. Families do not belong there.
Also, read my post on PAS here, and be sure to read my comments to Joe at the end. I never did hear back from Joe, either, and I had so looked forward to that discussion.
(“If you love something set it free if it returns its yours forever, if not it was never meant to be.”)
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