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A Light in the Darkness
We have very few good guys or gals out there who do the right thing in this upside down world of Family Court. When I meet one, I do try to let people know that they are one of the good guys, and they are on your side. The one I am about to tell you about is someone I am deeply inspired by. She is a mighty warrior and I call her my friend. I hope she considers me a friend, as well. We should not even be friends at all. The truth is, she was my ex’s attorney at one time. I despised her, and she probably thought I was a crazy hostile bitch. That was then. When our paths crossed again, it was because we are on the same side, trying to get families out of family court and help them stay out of court.
Unfortunately, sometimes, you have to have your day in court, and even that is often denied to people because judges think they know better than all of the rest of us. Judges think that all areas of family law should be considered “gray areas” and that laws and court rules need not apply to Family Court. That is why there is little justice found there. The system is also one that polices itself and so when you feel that your right as a parent has been violated, you have nowhere to turn to correct the situation.
It is frustrating when it seems like there is no one with integrity and no one who is fighting to change things. What you have to understand is that those who stand come under attack. When anyone is considering taking a stand, they witness how those fighters get attacked and cannot quite get the courage to take it on. Many systems are this way. Our Government, the education system, the child protection system, all kinds of systems get stuck in a preserve the system at all costs, or even in a group think situation where no one wants to buck the system or they get stuck in thinking they have all the answers and the “little people” just don’t understand. I have written about that breifly in my book, “The Parenting Consultant Nightmare“. I am trying to help people in this way, by writing about the madness, and also offering the High Conflict Diversion Program to get people to me, and out of Family Court. I will also be teaching the Parents Forever program as well. I always want to bring people away from the family court as much as possible. I still have Post Traumatic Stress from my court proceedings when I have to go anywhere near the Government Center or the Family Justice Center.
Michelle Macdonald is taking this a step further. Once her eyes were opened, she started the Family Innocence Project to help families stay out of court. Her organization offers an alternative to the court system. You can work through every part of the process there and only need to have the court sign off on it. Michelle and I are part of some bigger endeavors, that will be revealed sometime down the road, and I think you will be amazed, but I wanted to tell you about Michelle, taking her fight to a higher level by using her attorney skills and the law, to expose the wrongs of the Family Court System. When I first learned that Michelle was on the same side as I was, I asked her, “Do you get attacked for it?” She replied, “Several times a day, yes.” That is what happens and so I want to share with you what recently happened to Michelle because she is taking legal action against a judge and I hope that those of you interested in changing the Family Court System will stand with her, as she continues to expose the bad guys in the system. Read about Michelle’s treatment for shining light on the darkness here.
I have decided to stand with Michelle to fight the good fight, come what may.
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About lifesdoorsmediationI am a mediator, Life and Divorce Coach and an Instructor of a High Conflict Divorce Program.
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