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Kids in Two Different School Districts?
In the past couple of weeks, I have been made aware of a new trend. Divorced couples engaging in battle over which school district their child attends are now having their children go to school in two separate districts, AT THE SAME TIME!
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?
How can this be practical? Since school started, I have been made aware of three children who are doing 2 days per week in one school district and three days per week in the school district where the other parent lives. One poor twelve year old is doing one week in Mom’s district and the next in his Dad’s school district. That is nuts and it has nothing whatsoever with the children’s needs.
Children have basic needs and those must be met before anyone should worry about the parents’ wishes. To me, this is a form of child abuse and if one parent will not take action to correct the situation, the child should be removed from BOTH parties care. I generally support parents because I know they do not have it easy. Single parents, in particular, really do have their struggles and when they have a hostile ex who runs interference ALL THE TIME, their job is a thousand times harder. Still, to not step up for your children is cruel and heartless.
I know how stress and financial issues can affect your life and make it appear as if you are not concerned about the children. I know how the codependent coparent relationship overwhelms your family. In this case, where children are not only being passed back and forth between the two parents, but now being torn between two school districts, I cannot stay silent.
How can it work for the child? How do they get graded if they are only turning in 50% of the school work at each school? To me, this results in an F. 50% plus 50% does not equal 100% in this case because these schools are not connected. Schools have different curriculums and school calendars. This is setting your children up for failure and it is wrong. If the other parent registered the kids for school first, you need to step back and realize that you should have been on the ball. Whatever motivated the other parent, they beat you to the task. Take responsibility for that and leave the child to attend school in the school district of the other parent.
School used to be a safe haven for children of divorce. It often becomes ground zero. Why judges proceed to allow this to happen is beyond me. I have witnesses, first hand, the judges and how lazy they can be, and now, I get to see that laziness thought others. You do not have too many decent judges to turn to. The family court system has become a place where the rich get served, but not the poor. It has also become a place where judges make their own laws and rules. They will not help you and they will never help your child. It is up to you to save your child!
If you are in a crazy situation like having the children in different school districts, consider giving me a call to see how we can correct the situation. This is not the education you should give your children. You can do better. Let’s talk about it.
About lifesdoorsmediationI am a mediator, Life and Divorce Coach and an Instructor of a High Conflict Divorce Program.
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