What Kind of Court Nonsense is This?






You have GOT to be kidding me!  Well, no, I have been around this crazy system long enough to know that it is sadly, not a joke.  I am tired of the family courts treating parents as if they have committed some crime just because they want to be free as parents to choose how to raise their children.  Read this story from the Blaze and watch the video from FOX news:

http://www.theblaze.com/stories/mom-may-face-20-days-in-jail-for-baptizing-her-kids-without-her-ex-husbands-permission/

This is so inappropriate, I don’t know where to start!  First off, these parents are of the same religion.  Secondly, in a dispute like this, the best answer would be that she baptize the children when, where and in celebration with whom she wants and then since Dad wants to wait, he can wait and baptize them when, where and with whom he wants.  Are they all going to hell for an additional baptism?  I don’t think so.

It is stupid, yes, I said it, family court, STUPID decisions like this that keep high conflict divorce cases raging.  It is time to tell a Dad like this one to get over it.  Yes religion is something that parents have a say in when it comes to their children and yes, these are matters that are supposed to be discussed, but the family courts could smooth many rough waters by allowing each parent to be allowed to honor their wishes regarding their children.  Too often it seems the courts have to make one person the winner and one the loser.  It does not have to be, and should not be that way.  All that this decision does is allow one parent to have control over the other.  This is not good for the children that the family courts claim to try to protect.  There is no way that the mother going to jail for even five minutes is in the best interest of these children.  There should be no jail time.  NONE.  If anything the court should order some psychiatric care for that Dad who needs to get a life, but no jail time for anyone involved.  Yes, the mother did not follow the court order and that needs to be addressed.  There are different ways she could have gone about doing this and the court should school her on it, but the penalty in no way fits the “crime” in this case.  I think a monetary fine would suffice and the Dad can put it into a savings account towards his future celebration of the children’s baptism at his home when he decides the time is right for it.

If I were the mom here, I would do the jail time and continue to parent how I see fit in my own home.  If the shoe were on the other foot, would Dad be going to jail?  Would Mom have taken it to court?

Dear courts, stop pitting parents against one another and congratulations, you will be seeing these parents in court again in the future.  Probably several times.  You just fed the behavior of both parties!


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I am a mediator, Life and Divorce Coach and an Instructor of a High Conflict Divorce Program.

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