What Love Should Be


This is a repost from the original Court Craziness blog from 4-11-11

 

Love is not living in fear that the other person will get mad at you.  It’s not present if you have to filter what you say because the other person doesn’t approve of you.  Love is not when you feel that your partner doesn’t understand you, or worse, that your partner doesn’t accept you, faults and all.


 


Love is having someone there who you know will come running of you need them.  Love is when your partner accepts you.  They want to talk to you about everything.  Love is when the other person understands your passions and lifts you up so that you can achieve them and visa versa.  When you love someone, deeply, you can sit with them and not have to say a word for hours. 


 


Love is not when you are glad that your partner will be out of the house for the evening, weekend or however long.  When you love someone, you allow them the space to go after their dreams and desires, but you look forward to them returning to you when they are done.  Real love is when both people are exactly who they are.  They don’t have to hide things or pretend to be someone that they are not.  When you are loved, your needs are just as important as the other person’s.


 


Love is definitely NOT there when you and your partner hit each other or criticize each other constantly.  Love is not to control another.  Sex is also not love. Just because someone is having sex with you, doesn’t mean that love is a factor in the equation.


 


When two people love each other, they will both make the relationship a priority.  They will both want to work hard to work through problems.  They will talk to each other and listen to each other and find a middle ground.


 


Real love is exactly as quoted in the bible:


 


Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.


 


Blessings to you this day.  May your find real love.  Enjoy a song from Adele and if you’d like to buy Adele’s CDs go here :




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I am a mediator, Life and Divorce Coach and an Instructor of a High Conflict Divorce Program.

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