We live in an age where state authorities have taken it upon themselves to mandate relationships. As crazy as it sounds, that is what they do. We also have the court system creating syndromes where none exist. This is done so that people who are incapable of developing and maintaining relationships on their own, can force others to be in relationship with them. We have judges who want to play along in this little game of mandating relationships, and lawyers who allow it to happen because they can earn a lot of money doing so.
Read the latest, in a string of state control over children, from West Bloomfield, Michigan:
This is all such a farce for several reasons! First off, I contend that only an abusive parent would force their children to have a relationship with them. As difficult as it is, if the other parent is lying about you, but you are able to spend time with your children, the children will know how you treat them when they are with you. Children know. Children are not stupid. Children come to know the truth, as they experience it, not by what is written, not by what is told to them, but by their life experience of the time they spend with you.
Why this judge is participating in a farce:
1. The state’s only interest in the parent-child relationship is due to the state ensuring “the Best Interest of the Child”. Removing children from the safety of their home and both parents is not in their best interest, and will harm them in a FAR greater way than if they are not spending time with one parent. It may be harmful if they are being denied time with a parent, but we all know that children find a way to do what they want to do, especially as they get older.
2. If this judge truly believes that PAS is the problem here, then she would hold the mother accountable and not the children. Stop punishing the victims!
3. A reasonable parent would realize that court “forced” interaction with anyone will not deepen anyone’s affection for you. Maybe the father should ask for court ordered therapy sessions where they may get to the bottom of what is happening and work on their relationship. This would afford an opportunity to repair a broken relationship, and not demand “parental rights”.
I realize that there is much more to ANY court story than meets the eye. I will try and research this case to find out more information, but until then, on the surface, it is pretty pathetic. Both parents and the professionals on this case are failing the children and I hope, for the children’s sake, that someone will do the right thing!
I like to think that people should be informed about matters that involve them entering into a contract, especially where they are going to be paying thousands of dollars. One of my biggest pet peeves is when parents get stuck in a contract they cannot get out of, and they never really agreed to in the first place.
The legal community does a very poor job of informing parents about what it means to work with a Parenting Consultant. Usually, parents are strong armed into agreeing to have a PC appointed, and out comes the court order. It happens quickly, and you really don’t know what a PC does, or how much they cost, until after a court order is issued that appoints one. By the time you realize how the process works, you are stuck.
The following is a list of issues that a Parenting Consultant can decide about your children. It is a list that I received when I went through training to be a Parenting Consultant. If you were given this list at the time you were contemplating whether or not to appoint a PC, I truly believe that no sane person would ever agree to have a Parenting Consultant appointed. Even when you are told that a PC will settle disputes about legal custody issues, you never imagine all the things they delve into about your family life.
I have used both Parenting Coordinator and Parenting Consultant to describe the role of these court authorities, but they mean the same thing. Most places call them Parent Coordinators, but my home state of Minnesota calls them Parenting Consultants.
The following is the list of issues that a Parenting Consultant can decide, however, this is not all inclusive. They can decide anything other than Custody, or Child Support. Would you be willing to turn over decisions like this to Family Court?