Have you had your fill of Family Court? Are you tired of the battle, and think or hope that your ex is sick of it, too?
Life’s Doors Mediation is looking for parents who have been at war for too long and want to find a new way to parent, whether that means co-parenting, parallel parenting, or something else that we come up with. I have been quite successful in changing the direction of parents who are looking to the family court for answers. I’d like to help you.
If you live in Minnesota, please give me a call. The first 2 parents who call me will get a free assessment to see if we can make a positive change to your situation. I will even contact your ex to see if they would be willing to call a truce. After that, I will work with you separately or together, as needed without charge. You have nothing to lose, but a lot to gain. Your children have a lot to gain also.
Can you be a little vulnerable and let go of the family court crutch? Find out today, 763-566-2282. You can also email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Part of teaching the High Conflict Diversion Program is to help parents learn to have some compassion for their child’s other parent. It is very hard to do, especially when they seem to go out of their way to make your life miserable, but learning to have compassion for them is not really about them. It is about freeing yourself from the wounds of your past and moving into a new future. You may not have control of the court battle, but you can control the future path you travel.
I know that many people enduring any prolonged conflict carry within them a lot of anger, hurt, resentment and pain. Sometimes we lash out at other people because of those feelings and emotions. It isn’t healthy to live life this way for very long. Stress and anger have deep effects on our mental and physical health. Those who continue living in the pain are more likely to repeat these patterns, or get stuck right where they are in life, waiting until something magical frees them. What they do not know is that the key to their freedom is within them. No one else can free you. You have to be willing to learn and grow and move away from that pain and into the freedom of a new life. It takes a willingness, some time, and an active effort to get there.
The following video is an awesome example of how to see people with compassion. You cannot know what is going on within your friends, neighbors, coworkers, or even your ex. We like to believe that we know the inner workings of our ex, and we may understand a great deal about them, but once we are no longer married to that person, we only think we know. Deep down there may be reasons for their behavior or reasons why they cannot move forward with their own life. You may never know what those reasons are. By treating them compassionately, you can start to empathize with them. You do not have to like them. You do not have to help them, but it would serve everyone well, even your children, if you could say, I am going to move away from this bitterness and have a happier life, regardless of what the other parent does. If you don’t know, the best revenge on an ex is to live a happy life. Happiness comes from giving others the benefit of the doubt when they behave badly, seeing your part in any conflicts and taking steps to correct that, and to be the best person that you possibly can. You will be an example for your children and you can teach them compassion by showing them how it is done.
Please watch this fantastic video from Fellowship Bible church in Arkansas. Make it go viral, please!
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I have an announcement to make! Life’s doors Mediation will be moving to a new location as of March 1, 2014. As you may know, in March of 2013, I joined the Circle of Healing Arts Cooperative, and moved to Coon Rapids. There were many great things about this move, but some were not the best for my clients or my plans to bring the High Conflict Diversion Program to Minnesota.
This winter has absolutely stunk, to put it mildly, and crossing the river can be especially challenging any day, but this winter? Almost hopeless. You had to be extremely motivated to drive anywhere this year! Thank you to those willing to make the journey to Coon Rapids for class.
There have also been expansion plans for me and others in the co-op, but the building we are in was starting to fill up. It has left me without very good options for my classroom.
I love the people at the Circle of Healing Arts so this has been a difficult decision. Still, what I want to offer to my clients and students made me decide it was time to change, sooner, rather than later. I am a go getter and will do what I need to do to keep things moving forward for me and my clients. You need help and I will bring you options. I hope that Life’s doors Mediation becomes known for not only mediation and coaching, but also as a great place for education for families. I have a lot of information to share with you!
As of March 1st, I will be back in Brooklyn Center. Not in my old building. This one is just down the road a couple of blocks from there. This will be an exciting move. I cannot wait to show you all the new classrooms there! This place used to be a college so it is all setup for what I need and better able to accommodate my students more comfortably.
I may even be moved in earlier than the first. Keep an eye out. Once I get settled in, I will be making changes to the website and this blog.
I hope you will join me when you need mediation, coaching or classes that help you move forward toward your goals. I do not have anything listed yet, but working on a class for Adult Children of Alcoholics, which is another area of my expertise.
As always, if you have any questions or concerns, feel free to call 763-566-2282 or email me at email@example.com