Here is a video from Henry Winkler offering the secret to a long marriage. There is a lot if truth in what he says and it doesn’t matter if you are married, divorced people trying to co-parent, a parent and child relationship in conflict or even experiencing issues between friends. It is not about how you meant it, but how it lands! See what Henry Winkler says…
Many people do not know that Life’s Doors Mediation offers much more than divorce services. We also offer Marital Mediation and relationship coaching services. Our goals is to improve relationships. No matter where two people are in their relationship, they can move beyond conflict and reach a peaceful coexistence. We’ve had married couples and unmarried couples come in to learn communication and conflict management skills without any mediation at all, but we have also helped parents with teenage children and couples who are struggling to stay together negotiate their way to a workable relationship through non legal mediation processes. Agreements do not have to be written. It gives people a chance to discuss their needs in the relationship and try to get to a place of understanding from the other side. Many couples want to discuss their needs and desires and agree to a way forward. Couples who use marital mediation can avoid divorce, but it has nothing to do with any court process. It is simply an agreement between two people. The agreement can be written or simply be a verbal agreement. It is a matter between the two people involved whether they wish an agreement be written or not. Because these types of agreements are usually not very involved, the fees are much lower than it would be for a court involved case.
If you would like more information on informal marital or relationship mediation, please contact Susan Carpenter at Life’s Doors Mediation via phone, 763-566-2282 or email: firstname.lastname@example.org. You may also want to check out High Conflict U for our relationship, communication and conflict skill building classes and programs. There are times when you may be able to save your marriage or restore a relationship. As Henry Winkler said, both people have to willing. If that is where you are at, despite any problems you are having, reach out and see if Life’s Doors Mediation or High Conflict U may be able to help.
When I started my journey to help parents, the goal was to save them from the confusion I knew they felt and to make their journey shorter and less painful than the one I had walked. I felt called to be a guide, a teacher and provide comfort when I could. I never promised to have all the answers. We are all human, after all. We need that higher power. We need to believe in something greater than ourselves. We need hope that there is much more to the journey than our current situation. We need hope.
I spent the time of my story all alone. I was alone because I could not find anyone else who really understood. I started out scared and alone, just me and my two boys, but I did ask God for help. I did not think he was helping so I quickly dismissed God and searched for someone or something else. When I did that, there was nothing but me and the prison I was building for myself.
When I was finally tired of my lonely misery and found no one else who understood or had real knowledge I turned back to God and found he was always there. He had never left me. I was simply refusing to see him, to hear him and to trust him. When I gave in to what he was doing, my life changed. I was freed from a prison that really only existed in my own mind. The door had always been open for me to walk through.
I was blessed and I wanted to share that blessing, that peace, that freedom with others who were held captive in their imaginary prisons. I wanted them to see what I finally saw. The door to your prison is already open. You simply have to walk through it!
I went on to walk a new journey of helping parents escape the pain of divorce and high conflict custody battles. Those who are open to change receive great rewards. I share with them the secret to conquering Family Court and painful relationships.
While I am a mediator, parenting consultant, and parenting time expeditor in Minnesota, and I enjoy that work to a degree, those roles offer limited success. Results depend on the good faith of the individuals involved. The success or failure comes from the skills and abilities of the parents themselves and their desire to escape their own prison.
What I really enjoy is teaching. It is in the one on one work that I do where I see dramatic results for parents. It even works for high conflict families. How wonderful it is to see fear and anxiety replaced with peace and confidence and to see that spill over for children. Parents living peace and confidence are able to offer so much more to their children than are parents who struggle with pain and trauma. Pain and trauma will not help you find your way out of a paper bag! Pain, trauma and the stress of a journey through the darkness of family court, leaves you stuck. Fumbling and stumbling because you aren’t aware of your true power makes you rely on professionals to light the way. What you do not realize is most of the professionals don’t know the way either. Even if they do, the professionals will not light your path for you. They are trying to show you where the light is. You have to take it. It is not the lawyer’s job to teach you. It is not the mediator’s job to teach you. It isn’t the parenting coordinator’s job to teach you. In some cases, I have made it my job to teach, but I can only do that in the one-on-one services I provide. I’ve decided that will be my main focus in this coming year and beyond.
I will show you the way and offer guidance, but the work is up to you and you alone. It is not easy, but you can free yourself and your children from the pain and trauma of Family Court and High Conflict divorce. Even when your co-parent keeps inflicting more and more control, financial hardship and fear on you, there are ways to expose their attacks for what they are and find peace for your own house.
The goal of our the programs offered at Life’s Doors Mediation is to clue you in to what you do not understand so that you can free yourself from a narcissistic ex, a bipolar co-parent, toxic co-parenting and really understand why it is you feel so trapped. We also share with you the truth about Family Court professionals. Why don’t they seem to know what they are doing? Why don’t lawyers help you? Why don’t parenting consultants seem to care about domestic abuse? We have programs that are specifically created to help victims of domestic violence. Check out our program, Victim in the System.
You have nothing to lose! If you have tried everything else and found no help, why not try something new in this New Year? Pick our brains as to why your situation seems so backwards and upside down.
While Life’s Doors Mediation can only provide mediation, parenting consulting and parenting time expeditor services to parents in Minnesota, our coaching and educational programs are without limits. We can assist anyone in the United States, or even the world, to move beyond the prison of Family Court. You owe it to yourself and your children to try something new! It is always a free consult. What have you got to lose?
I like to listen to music from simpler times. The arrangements offer much more than music of today. The arrangements contain a greater assortment of musical instruments, and the lyrics touch nerves because of the emotions involved in the depth of feeling in the song. Today’s music seems to contain lyrics of violence and anger, more than any other feelings. Songs from when I was growing up still contained reference to God and faith. You do not see that anymore. Today’s songs about relationships seethe with hate; Forgiveness is forgotten, love is less strong. If you go back and listen to songs from the sixties and seventies and then listen to something from this year, the contrast is stunning! I know that if I want to listen to music as a way to de-stress, I am less likely to find that in today’s music, but when i go back to songs from my youth, they bring peace. Enjoy this song from the Fifth Dimension, and see if you can relate to it in terms of being more emotionally expressive, and more peaceful and calming.
This song was written by Dolly Parton as she was experiencing the loss of a significant relationship. This really captures that spirit when you have grieved the loss of something and are transitioning into the positive experience that loss ultimately brings. Beautiful.
I’m not a country music fan, but will post Dolly Parton’s version also, just in case you are.
I Can’t tell you what prayer and miracles from above have meant to my life. I know that not everyone believes, but I can tell you that it was the difference between living and dying from my ordeal. I also know that my most successful clients survive and thrive because they believe.
If you have never tried the power of prayer before, why not give it a try today, on this national day of prayer? You have nothing to lose and it just might change your heart, mind, and direction of your life!