When parents enter the Family Court System it is very confusing. First, they want you to part ways, but at the same time keep forcing you together to “co-parent”. They use confusing lingo and it seems like the parents do all the work, while the professionals take a lot of money for putting the hard work on you. It is true. They do. A common quote from my coaching clients is, ” I had to do all the work for my lawyer.” Well, there is a reason for that. The professionals do not know your children, your schedules, what matters most to you and what doesn’t, and in particular, once you have entered post decree land, there isn’t a whole lotta law that goes on. The law becomes the law you (or the courts if you weren’t able to agree) created for your family. There is no law that dictates what your parenting time schedule has to be. There really isn’t. The time can be distributed evenly between parents or it may not be distributed evenly for any number of reasons. Some states do a default parenting time schedule when parents cannot create one on their own, but it is all very complicated. Parents can choose to deviate from a schedule if they want and they are encouraged to be flexible as life evolves. Why be flexible? Because life can change quite a bit over the span of a childhood, but even when you have deviated from the schedule, if you return to court later, the court will enforce the schedule that is in an order because that is what they signed off on.
Sometimes, this confusion and lack of structure creates fear and anxiety for parents. Some parents do not understand that the law has pretty much completed their case and they keep waiting for “it to be done”. In other words, a parent may want this person who hurt them so terribly to go away and never bother them again. Unfortunately, though, that is not the way it works when you have children together. Like it or not, you do have to talk to each other and coordinate schedules, school or medical needs, etc. The way most parents learn to do this is to work on emotionally processing the divorce and hurt feelings they were left with from the relationship through therapy, coaching, education or self help, so they can move into a new type of relationship, without having all of the bad feelings get in the way. Unfortunately, some people are unable to do this or don’t see the value in doing the hard work of self reflection. They don’t like what has happened. They don’t like the arrangement. They don’t like that they have a co-parent because life would certainly be easier if they didn’t, and they don’t like that their ex never got punished for the hurtful things they said or did throughout the marriage and/or divorce process. Is that what Family Court is there for? Are they there to punish?
Many people who continue to push for some kind of “conviction” of their co-parent do not seem to understand that Family Court is not criminal court. It is not a crime to get a divorce. It can be very hurtful, but it is not a crime. It is not a crime to want some of the stuff that was accumulated during the marriage or to want to continue to be a parent to your child after the divorce. The fact that someone seeks a divorce, even though one parent does not think that will be good for the child, doesn’t make it a crime. These things are the nature of relationship breakdowns and unavoidable in some marriages. If the marriage is going to end, it is going to be end and hopefully, each spouse will learn to come to terms with that and move on to create the life they dream about, either on their own or with someone new. On top of that, when you share a child, you have to process these separate lives, while still coming in contact with the other person. That makes it much harder to go through all of the emotions and accept the loss. That is why your success in court depends greatly on you more than professionals. It depends on how resilient you are. Professionals don’t know what you need to get to the point of acceptance. Some professionals believe that you need time, but courts have deadlines. They cannot just sit and wait for everyone to process their loss. If they did, many people would continue to not process the loss and hope that their spouse will change their mind by forcing the marriage to continue forever, but there are two people in this thing. Often, two people with very different desires for outcome. What do you call that difference of opinion or differing needs? It is called a dispute.
What do you do when working with two people in a dispute? For example, let’s say that two of your friends have a dispute over some words that were said. Suppose that the friends are Janet and Martha. Janet told Martha something in confidence and without realizing it, Martha shared the information with another friend named James. Her breaking confidence was not very nice, but it was not a crime. Now, in this dispute, the words have been spoken and the action cannot be undone. Hopefully, Martha is sorry for saying something she should not have said, but she cannot do anything other than to apologize and ask for forgiveness. Janet can either accept her apology and work to repair the relationship or she can decide that it is time to let the friendship go. For the two of them, that may work, but maybe because your goal is to remain friends with the two of them, even though their friendship has ended, and no one is upset with you about anything, each one will be able to stay friends with you individually. The relationships are all going to change, even though you were not part of the dispute, it does affect you. You may try t it and see how it goes and find out that there needs to be some ground rules set. Especially when the friends don’t think that you should be friends with both of them and fight over you. If your friends are going to put you in the middle or try to win you over to one side or the other, it is going to become very uncomfortable for you and you are going to feel the ramifications of their quarrel. As an adult person, you can walk away and say good-bye to both of them if the situation becomes too uncomfortable for you, but a child of divorce cannot do that when the dispute is between their parents.
Another thing that would not happen between the friends is this, no one would try getting the police involved or ask a court to prevent you from having a relationship with either Janet or Martha. There was no crime committed and you have the right to have a relationship with anyone you wish. There wouldn’t be any authority figure to come yell at Martha or order her to not be allowed to have friends again. Because we are talking about a dispute between people, no matter what anyone else thinks of it, no crime occurred, and so there is nothing that anyone else can do about it, certainly not the police. Martha and Janet will feel the way they feel about it. A relationship ended. There is really no “right” outcome from what has happened. People who care about them may want them to apologize, make up and go back to being friends, but Janet and Martha will be the ones who decide their next steps, but they way they will each treat you afterward will determine how you feel about each one of them going forward. Hopefully, they will understand that you have separate feelings and needs from them and that your desire is to remain friends with both of them separately and they will create conditions where you can do that.
For a child of divorce, they need their parents to sort this out for them. They don’t want anyone to punish mommy or daddy because they hurt each other’s feelings or made each other sad. If mommy and daddy can deal with their hurt feelings and put them aside in order to understand their child’s needs and figure out how to separately manage the child’s activities, health and wellness, that is the best thing that can happen, but when the parents refuse or keep trying to make the child choose sides or stop seeing a parent, in the legal divorce they are going through, that is when a third party neutral is called upon to come in and try to help for the child’s sake. By this time, the hurts of the past are way behind the parents and they are usually already divorced. The situation is what it is and the court orders/agreements are what they are. Court appointed third parties are there to help everyone make it work, but if they do see a child in the middle, they will help to free the child from the conflict and negative feelings between parents. There really isn’t a lot that third parties can do to help you improve the situation. You will have to do this for yourself. They will try to get you focused on the child to make the child’s life more manageable because children do suffer enormous consequences when they have to live through parent hostility.
Many times parents do not understand this. They complain and complain and complain about what it is they do not like about the other parent or what the other parent has done. They expect that if they demonstrate just how bad a person the other parent is, someone will punish that parent in some way. That is not the nature of dispute resolution, which is what Family Court is about. Family Court looks for solutions and moving families forward. They want you to take your family out of court and start making decisions for yourselves. They don’t want to parent your children for you. They want to give you the tools to do it.
If your approach to Family Court is to try to prove fault in a no-fault system, you will lose sight of the needs of your child. If you need help understanding dispute resolution or gaining some coping skills so that you can focus on your children more than the battle, especially if you have an ex spouse who cannot seem to grasp the nature of custody and parenting time, give us a call at 763-566-2282 or at High Conflict Central, 1-800-516-2446. We’ll do our best to help you.
As a parent who navigated the Family Court System myself, it pains me to see all of the false information out in the Blogosphere and on Social Media that the uninformed have written, trying to entice you into joining their battles against Family Court and other systems that parents may encounter. I get very upset at the thought that you might buy into the junk they are trying to sell you.
Last week, some blogger/coach was promoting an event through Facebook and because I am always looking for good folks to join me in providing solid information to parents, I decided to join the event and see what the person had to say. The event was earlier today. I am both glad I did join in and at the same time horrified that I wasted time on that. The women is definitely someone I’d put in the category of misinformation-Blog-o-fears-gullible-nitwit. I am not going to name them, their blog or their website, because you could be harmed if you pay any attention to them and I do not want to help them build an audience. Quite frankly, I hope no one finds them at all. Thank God only 3 people joined the big event today and I was one of them, which only leaves 2 people who could possibly be fooled.
Long story short, the blogger is another parent who believes in falsehoods and because they did, lost custody of their children. They refuse to believe that they could be in any way flawed as a parent and so it is easier to believe in conspiracy theories than to have to self reflect.
Keep in mind that I often hear from clients about these sorts of blogs, organizations or groups, who are out there to “help” and I often have to offer reality checks and counter the nonsense that they have heard from these “helpers”. So let’s look at the leader or founder of these types of organizations. A common theme is that they lost custody of their child or had their child taken away “for no reason at all”. OK. So let’s say that is true. They did nothing wrong. They were just minding their own business, sitting at home and some evil entities came to the door from Family Court and removed the children from their home. I have never heard one single case of this happening. Not one. So, anyway, my first question to a parent who wants to follow them is why would you follow their example? They lost custody of their children. Are they the role model to follow? I think you should run like hell from them and find someone who knew how to get custody or at least keep it. Doesn’t that sound more logical? If any of you think that listening to the advice of a parent who lost custody is a wise idea, give me a call. Seriously, I need it explained to me how that is ever helpful. Call me at 763-566-2282 and let me know why I should change my thinking on it. If I am wrong, I will admit that I am wrong and I will make corrections because I have the ability to self reflect. I think my ability to self reflect may have been one of the keys to the positive outcome my own family experienced in our family court case. If you think that it is logical to want to follow in the footsteps of parents who lost custody and sometimes all rights to their children, I do want to connect with you, for your children’s sake, if nothing else.
Your children are much too precious to put your faith in someone who doesn’t demonstrate an ability to succeed, no matter what it is they are trying to succeed at, and I care about parents way too much to sit idly by while they are being taught a bunch of nonsense. It could cost a parent dearly and it could cost their children dearly. At the very least, you should talk to people who hold an opposite view of the system so that you can weigh the difference between what was said by the system hater and those who “get” the ins and outs of the system, and decide for yourself which stance seems more logical and which path seems more likely to help you achieve your goals. On the Family Court hating side, you have people who have all lost custody and still cannot seem to figure out the reason why and on the side who uses Family Court appropriately, you have some folks who kept or won custody of their children and they know exactly how they achieved their goals. One side tried to cut the other parent out of their child’s life completely, mainly because of their inability to cope or manage co-parenting. The other side was able to put their child’s needs before their own and wouldn’t dream of cutting their co-parent out of their child’s life. This might be one hint to what equates to success in Family Court, hint, hint. On the blog of fears side of the table, the leader of the pack has no clue what lead to them losing custody. Do you really think they can show you the ropes if they are clueless like that? On the successful side of Family Court encounters, parents can self reflect and not feel threatened by the other parent. They know that both parents can win, although it is up to each one individually if that is going to happen. Those parents are not going to try to scare you. Their goal is to assist you and feel empowered as a parent. I certainly hope you’ll think long and hard about the people you allow to help you through Family Court because another thing about those who “get it” is, they typically can recommend the best professionals to use, the ones who did help them. They had professionals who understood their case, did the right thing and took the right action. Many professionals will be willing to help you when you are able to help yourself, too.
So why do these blogs-of-fear people give out false information and try to scare you? I have some theories. The truth is that the nitwit people, like that blogger I listened to, are miserable. They are miserable because they live in a land called denial and they refuse to see the truth.
Theory # 1:
Misery loves company. Something horrible happened to them and they need you to make them feel better about it because if they are able to pull a bunch of you into it and you lose your children, too, then they are not alone in their misery. They can use you as another example of how mean and nasty Family Court and Systems are.
I find it laughable how many disgruntled parents tell stories of Family Court professionals getting incentives for stealing their children away from them. So, if Family Court is getting an incentive to take children away from parents, why did their ex get to keep the child? Wouldn’t there be twice the money to take kids away from both parents? No one wants to take your children, but parents sometimes do face harsh consequences when they continue to put their child in the middle of a nasty battle and/or make the child choose sides.
As I mentioned before, nobody is sitting around minding their own business and then Family Court comes to your door and makes you get divorced and have a custody battle. Those are voluntary things. I can attest that it doesn’t feel voluntary when you are not the one who filed for divorce. Maybe your spouse filed and dragged you in kicking and screaming. They were able to do this because you are in a legal entanglement of coupledom and they decided it was time to end the marriage they voluntarily entered into, which included certain legal entanglements. They voluntarily entered into the marriage, but they have to seek court permission to get out of it so that those legal entanglements can be undone, like it or not. Most people know in their heart that if a spouse wants a divorce, it doesn’t make any sense to force them to stay. Divorce is hard. It is sad. It is the death of some dreams, but it may also end up being the best thing that ever happened to you and it can be a beneficial thing for children when their parents emotionally process their negative feelings about the life change, grieve the loss and build new lives full of new opportunities.
They really do think they can take down Family Court. They have an upside down view of Family Law and they really do think everything that happens there is illegal or unconstitutional. Because they couldn’t “save their child”, they are going to save the rest of the world to make up for it. It is very noble thinking to save the world, but when I coach parents, my advice is always to save yourself first. Once you have succeeded in freeing your own family from a life of nonstop Family Court action, you will have a plethora of knowledge to share, not to mention credibility. Only when you succeed are you able to fully explain to someone else how they can succeed, as well. To be honest, once a parent succeeds in taking control of their life in spite of a nasty ex and in the midst of court proceedings, they understand that there was a method to the madness and know that it lead to tremendous personal growth.
They hate their ex more than anything else in the world. They are consumed with hatred. So much hatred, in fact, that they cannot see anything or anyone else. They cannot say to themselves, “I love my child more than I hate my ex and will do anything to help my child”.
They have extremely low self esteem. They have no love for themselves and would rather go it alone, operating under false beliefs than to seek help, especially if they may have to admit that they need help or they have some problems with relationships. In their minds, it is better to continue presenting a fake self than the real self they despise. Deep down maybe they want to lose and create a self fulfilling prophecy?
They may just be evil. Some people want to hurt others. Because they could not succeed, they don’t want to see anyone else succeed either. All they want to do is destroy anyone in their path.
Whatever the reason that some people want to spread misinformation and make you afraid of Family Court, do not let them do it to you. If you need real help, there is help for you. Parents in Family Court need to have mentors, parents who went through the system and found solutions for their family. Parents do not need to be terrified that they will lose their children. It is a rare case where that happens and those parents are doing harm to their child. They just may not be able to see it.
Divorce and co-parenting can be very difficult to navigate and if your ex spouse wants to put you through the worst experience of your life, it can seem overwhelming and unmanageable. Look for people who help. Look for people like me and the team of mentors I am building at High Conflict U. Do I have an ulterior motive? Yes, I do. I hope that you will succeed and build the life you dream about with your children and what would be even better than that is if I could convince you to positively help others through so that they can succeed as well.
Family Court can be a tool or a weapon. That is a matter of fact. However, you can choose not to use it as a weapon and if your ex decides to ttack you with it, there are people like me who will absolutely support you through it and help you turn the attacks back on the attacker, all while keeping your children out of the middle and living as carefree a childhood as possible.
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Here is a video from Henry Winkler offering the secret to a long marriage. There is a lot if truth in what he says and it doesn’t matter if you are married, divorced people trying to co-parent, a parent and child relationship in conflict or even experiencing issues between friends. It is not about how you meant it, but how it lands! See what Henry Winkler says…
Many people do not know that Life’s Doors Mediation offers much more than divorce services. We also offer Marital Mediation and relationship coaching services. Our goals is to improve relationships. No matter where two people are in their relationship, they can move beyond conflict and reach a peaceful coexistence. We’ve had married couples and unmarried couples come in to learn communication and conflict management skills without any mediation at all, but we have also helped parents with teenage children and couples who are struggling to stay together negotiate their way to a workable relationship through non legal mediation processes. Agreements do not have to be written. It gives people a chance to discuss their needs in the relationship and try to get to a place of understanding from the other side. Many couples want to discuss their needs and desires and agree to a way forward. Couples who use marital mediation can avoid divorce, but it has nothing to do with any court process. It is simply an agreement between two people. The agreement can be written or simply be a verbal agreement. It is a matter between the two people involved whether they wish an agreement be written or not. Because these types of agreements are usually not very involved, the fees are much lower than it would be for a court involved case.
If you would like more information on informal marital or relationship mediation, please contact Susan Carpenter at Life’s Doors Mediation via phone, 763-566-2282 or email: email@example.com. You may also want to check out High Conflict U for our relationship, communication and conflict skill building classes and programs. There are times when you may be able to save your marriage or restore a relationship. As Henry Winkler said, both people have to willing. If that is where you are at, despite any problems you are having, reach out and see if Life’s Doors Mediation or High Conflict U may be able to help.
Have you ever sat and watched birds? There is such great symbolism available to apply to human life and when you stop to take in the awe of any of God’s creatures, it can bring some much-needed “Aha” moments. I would encourage you to sometime sit and watch birds.
I remember when I was younger I used to see birdwatchers’ guide books all over the place and there were bird watching clubs out there, too. I am not sure if there are any left in this day and age and it is a real shame if there isn’t. Today, everyone is busy watching things on their iPhone. Everyone wants technological answers to life, but the complexities of life can never be summed up on a website. That is why God shows us the answers all around us if only we’d get off of our little technological machines and look at the world around us. Nature provides beautiful answers and they are always at our disposal. We don’t have to type anything into Google. All we have to do is sit and patiently wait for it.
Just the other day, I was at a stop light, thinking about some life difficulties that I have been experiencing. My thoughts were all about what direction I should go. How can I meet my goals? If I am to listen to God and follow his direction, why is this road I’m walking not an easier path for me? I also had a big nagging question on my heart. The question? Should I just give up? Go back to sleep? Forget that God ever put me on this path in the first place and go live a simpler life? God always tells me to keep at it and it frustrates me because it is a path of much resistance. Sometimes I wonder why God would send me on this mission and not make the road easier and filled with helpers and resources and yet I believe that everything will happen in god’s timing, not mine.
So I was sitting there at a stop light, feeling disheartened and I saw them, two sparrows. It was a windy day and I watched one of them try to fly from a roof to a nearby tree. The wind kept pushing him in a different direction than he seemed to want to go. There was another bird with him and that bird seemed to stay on course longer than the other, but they both were struggling to accomplish their goal and get to their destination. As I watched them, I saw that they would try every few seconds, get taken off course by the wind, and head back to the roof. When it seemed as though they had simply given up, you could see the winds had changed and when it did, they took advantage of having things going their way and effortlessly made their way to the tree.
This short presentation by nature made me realize that the birds know. How can the birds know and deep down I know, too, but I question too much. I doubt too often. Of course God will get me there! When the time is right!
Think of the messages that were delivered to me from the birds that day:
- Reaching your goals is not easy
- You will struggle
- You will be blown off course
- Timing is everything
- Sometimes, you have to wait for the winds to change
- When the right time comes, go for it
We can all learn a lot from birds.
Luke 12:22-27 And he said to his disciples, “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat, nor about your body, what you will put on. 23 For life is more than food, and the body more than clothing.24 Consider the ravens: they neither sow nor reap, they have neither storehouse nor barn, and yet God feeds them. Of how much more value are you than the birds! 25 And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?[a] 26 If then you are not able to do as small a thing as that, why are you anxious about the rest? 27 Consider the lilies, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin
I know things have been pretty quiet on the blog lately, but I have been working hard with a new focus. My passion lies with helping parents. Believe me when I tell you that parents can make it through high conflict divorce. Parents can be of great support to their children in the midst of living a nightmare. Parents can be amazing parents, even when they are co-parenting in a high conflict or highly abusive custody situation. Sometimes, you just have to gain a little knowledge and a lot of confidence.
I am working very diligently to brand our new Divorce and Education Center, High Conflict U, and get all of our programs off and running. The latest is a basic free e-course called, “Victim in the System Basic”. Check it out and if you like it, consider signing up for our in-depth “Victim in the System Advanced” paid course. Also remember that we offer coaching services to any parent who is stuck in a high conflict nightmare. You can find out more about all the services provided at Life’s Doors Mediation and High Conflict U by visiting my website.
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I am very much looking forward to this movie. It looks amazing!
Many of the people I’ve worked with in the last 20 years are parents who experienced a traumatic family event. Now, their own children struggle with a similar situation. My goal is to help everyone get through it in the best way possible, which is not always easy, depending on the circumstances you find yourself in and the mindset of the people who are involved. Even some of the professionals have scars that they carry, scars that create their own toxic contributions to conflict or family drama. Still, no one should ever give up hope for a better family life.
I enjoy working with parents, regardless of what they have done in the past or how difficult their situations may appear on the surface. While many shy away from “high conflict” families, I tend to embrace them, especially when I can work one on one with them. Why? Why do I do it? It can certainly be painful and stressful. It is often hard to watch parents who are hurting their children. Many of them do not even realize their part in the struggle, but for those who take the little seed that I plant and let it grow, the results are amazing. For that reason, even if there might only be a handful in hundreds, I am compelled to continue working with parents. Once someone works through pain, trauma, abuse or anger and recognizes their own piece in the relationship puzzle, their eyes are opened. They cannot un-know what they know. They cannot undo the past, but they can create their future. It is a blessing to see and the effects are not just in them, but ripple to others, children, friends, neighbors, and the community. Parents willing to self reflect out of pain and into peace to be awesome role models for their children are the greatest parents I know and I admire them deeply!
Please go see the movie, “I Can Only Imagine”. I can already see the greatness within, even simply from getting a couple of minutes worth of a glimpse. Have a glimpse of faith and hope. I pray it plants a seed in you!
When I started my journey to help parents, the goal was to save them from the confusion I knew they felt and to make their journey shorter and less painful than the one I had walked. I felt called to be a guide, a teacher and provide comfort when I could. I never promised to have all the answers. We are all human, after all. We need that higher power. We need to believe in something greater than ourselves. We need hope that there is much more to the journey than our current situation. We need hope.
I spent the time of my story all alone. I was alone because I could not find anyone else who really understood. I started out scared and alone, just me and my two boys, but I did ask God for help. I did not think he was helping so I quickly dismissed God and searched for someone or something else. When I did that, there was nothing but me and the prison I was building for myself.
When I was finally tired of my lonely misery and found no one else who understood or had real knowledge I turned back to God and found he was always there. He had never left me. I was simply refusing to see him, to hear him and to trust him. When I gave in to what he was doing, my life changed. I was freed from a prison that really only existed in my own mind. The door had always been open for me to walk through.
I was blessed and I wanted to share that blessing, that peace, that freedom with others who were held captive in their imaginary prisons. I wanted them to see what I finally saw. The door to your prison is already open. You simply have to walk through it!
I went on to walk a new journey of helping parents escape the pain of divorce and high conflict custody battles. Those who are open to change receive great rewards. I share with them the secret to conquering Family Court and painful relationships.
While I am a mediator, parenting consultant, and parenting time expeditor in Minnesota, and I enjoy that work to a degree, those roles offer limited success. Results depend on the good faith of the individuals involved. The success or failure comes from the skills and abilities of the parents themselves and their desire to escape their own prison.
What I really enjoy is teaching. It is in the one on one work that I do where I see dramatic results for parents. It even works for high conflict families. How wonderful it is to see fear and anxiety replaced with peace and confidence and to see that spill over for children. Parents living peace and confidence are able to offer so much more to their children than are parents who struggle with pain and trauma. Pain and trauma will not help you find your way out of a paper bag! Pain, trauma and the stress of a journey through the darkness of family court, leaves you stuck. Fumbling and stumbling because you aren’t aware of your true power makes you rely on professionals to light the way. What you do not realize is most of the professionals don’t know the way either. Even if they do, the professionals will not light your path for you. They are trying to show you where the light is. You have to take it. It is not the lawyer’s job to teach you. It is not the mediator’s job to teach you. It isn’t the parenting coordinator’s job to teach you. In some cases, I have made it my job to teach, but I can only do that in the one-on-one services I provide. I’ve decided that will be my main focus in this coming year and beyond.
I will show you the way and offer guidance, but the work is up to you and you alone. It is not easy, but you can free yourself and your children from the pain and trauma of Family Court and High Conflict divorce. Even when your co-parent keeps inflicting more and more control, financial hardship and fear on you, there are ways to expose their attacks for what they are and find peace for your own house.
The goal of our the programs offered at Life’s Doors Mediation is to clue you in to what you do not understand so that you can free yourself from a narcissistic ex, a bipolar co-parent, toxic co-parenting and really understand why it is you feel so trapped. We also share with you the truth about Family Court professionals. Why don’t they seem to know what they are doing? Why don’t lawyers help you? Why don’t parenting consultants seem to care about domestic abuse? We have programs that are specifically created to help victims of domestic violence. Check out our program, Victim in the System.
We also help those in High Conflict situations. Are you tired of it yet? Do you want out of the control? Check out what High Conflict U has to offer. There is even a free e-course about Parenting Consultants and Coordinators!
You have nothing to lose! If you have tried everything else and found no help, why not try something new in this New Year? Pick our brains as to why your situation seems so backwards and upside down.
While Life’s Doors Mediation can only provide mediation, parenting consulting and parenting time expeditor services to parents in Minnesota, our coaching and educational programs are without limits. We can assist anyone in the United States, or even the world, to move beyond the prison of Family Court. You owe it to yourself and your children to try something new! It is always a free consult. What have you got to lose?