Uplifting Friday Spirit!

This lady has an awesome song, and story of faith.  Hang in there!  Keep hope.  All will be fulfilled.  From one who continues to stand faithful, even in some dark times, believe it.  All will be fulfilled!

http://bethelmusic.com/blog/breakthrough-in-infertility-amys-story/

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Mending Broken Relationships

Life’s Doors Mediation offers services for individuals, couples and families.  Many people are not aware that mediation works for all forms of conflict.  You don’t have to be going through divorce to try mediation.  I also offer marital mediation so that a couple can work on saving their marriage.  Whether you try to piece a marriage back together, or work out a better co-parenting relationship after divorce, the benefits are far greater than what you will experience as a couple.  If you have children, they will also benefit.  They will learn that forgiveness can happen, and that all is not lost when someone makes a mistake.  Extended family, neighbors, and coworkers also benefit when you learn peaceful ways to resolve conflict.  Everyone can benefit from taking the time to resolve conflict, rather than avoid it.  Avoiding conflict is nothing more than delaying resolution.  Conflict will either stay the same or build up, over time.  You can try to hide from it, but it has a sneaky way of creeping up on you when you least expect it and are the least equipped to deal with it.

If you are struggling in a relationship, consider scheduling an appointment for coaching, or mediation.  While some relationships cannot and should not be mended, such as abusive, coercive or those involving substance dependency, many relationships can be repaired.

Mandated Relationships

PAS statement from APA image by Susan Carpenter

We live in an age where state authorities have taken it upon themselves to mandate relationships.  As crazy as it sounds, that is what they do.  We also have the court system creating syndromes where none exist.  This is done so that people who are incapable of developing and maintaining relationships on their own, can force others to be in relationship with them.  We have judges who want to play along in this little game of mandating relationships, and lawyers who allow it to happen because they can earn a lot of money doing so.

Read the latest, in a string of state control over children, from West Bloomfield, Michigan:

Judge Locks Up Kids for Refusing to Have lunch With Dad

This is all such a farce for several reasons!  First off, I contend that only an abusive parent would force their children to have a relationship with them.  As difficult as it is, if the other parent is lying about you, but you are able to spend time with your children, the children will know how you treat them when they are with you.  Children know.  Children are not stupid.  Children come to know the truth, as they experience it, not by what is written, not by what is told to them, but by their life experience of the time they spend with you.

 

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Background Image courtesy of arztsamui at freedigitalphotos.net

Why this judge is participating in a farce:

1. The state’s only interest in the parent-child relationship is due to the state ensuring “the Best Interest of the Child”.  Removing children from the safety of their home and both parents is not in their best interest, and will harm them in a FAR greater way than if they are not spending time with one parent.  It may be harmful if they are being denied time with a parent, but we all know that children find a way to do what they want to do, especially as they get older.

2. If this judge truly believes that PAS is the problem here, then she would hold the mother accountable and not the children.  Stop punishing the victims!

3. A reasonable parent would realize that court “forced” interaction with anyone will not deepen anyone’s affection for you.  Maybe the father should ask for court ordered therapy sessions where they may get to the bottom of what is happening and work on their relationship.  This would afford an opportunity to repair a broken relationship, and not demand “parental rights”.

I realize that there is much more to ANY court story than meets the eye.  I will try and research this case to find out more information, but until then, on the surface, it is pretty pathetic.  Both parents and the professionals on this case are failing the children and I hope, for the children’s sake, that someone will do the right thing!

A Call to Action Update: April 2015 – Families Impacted by Guardian ad Litem Failures, Board Revising Its Complaint Procedure

You can change the world…together…for a purpose…and with a passion.

A Call to Action ~ Together We Are Stronger (C2A)

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The need for reform in family court and in the Guardian ad Litem (GAL) program is urgent. Fit, loving parents are losing custody of their children due to systemic failures and abuses of power, and children are being placed in the custody of dangerous or unfit parent. The impact is severe, devastating families and often leaving lifelong scars on children.

The stories of these families are heartbreaking…. here are some stories we have heard:

Since my abusive ex won custody, I have not been allowed to see my child.

I was forced to send my child to visit the abuser, they screamed and cried and did not want to leave.

I was not even allowed to give my child an Easter basket.

I was punished for reporting concerns of abuse, and lost custody (other parents are placed into supervised visitation while the abusive parent…

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Love and Triumph

Awwwwwwwwwwwww…

See, there's this thing called biology...

What a sweet love story. This is what it means when we say love conquers all. This is what it means to walk in victory.

Melissa Dohme was stabbed 32 times by a former boyfriend 3 years ago. She didn’t go on to become a perpetual victim, to wallow in her perceived oppression. She didn’t dedicate her life to bemoaning the nature of men, although she was certainly more than entitled to. Instead she went on to graduate from college and to go to work for Hands Across the Bay to help domestic violence victims.

A few months after the attack, she met up with one of the first responders who saved her life and although she was hesitant, they started dating a few years ago and fell in love.

He proposed to her Monday, just as she was about to toss out the first pitch for the Tampa Bay…

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Success Story?! REPOST

The following is a repost from 1/14/13.  It is important to post now because the video appears to have been scrubbed from the internet.  Does that surprise anyone?

As you know, I am determined to raise awareness about Parenting Consultants, known in other states as Parenting Coordinators.  I am also trying to help people avoid this process all together.  See the video below, and I have added some links to Liz Library articles about PCs, too.

Well, praise be to God.  After many years, and many parents trying and failing to get the news media to do a story on parenting consultants, a couple of brave Moms were able to finally shine a spotlight on the process.  Information is power and so I do call this a success story.  The journalist also interviewed Karen Irvin, a long time PC, and I suppose they had to do so in order to be fair, but that seemed to put the criticism back on the parents more than the process itself.

Personally, having experience on both sides of the process, I know that there is enough blame to go around.  Parents can become quite hostile with one another.  That is a problem.  However, there is the problem of having a process that takes money away from the families who need it and having no way to get out of that process if you find it does not help your situation or it turns out to be much more expensive than you had anticipated.

The news story says that parenting consultant contracts are for two years.  I still hear from a multitude of people that have no end date in the contract or court order.  Much of what is wrong in the system is that the system does not educate itself on the latest recommendations, nor do they require any special education for parenting consultants.  It is available, but it is not required.  As Karen Irvin said, “We’ve developed a two-day training that we think should be four days, but I don’t know that we could get people to a four day training.” I’d like to challenge that thinking because many of these same people are willing to attend a three-day divorce camp!

Parents do share some of the responsibility for how bad the relationships are because there are times the PC is used as a weapon and just the presence of the court authority overseeing your life can invite nit-picky battles that probably would not happen without the presence of a court authority and the false sense of power that provides.  But the court would be wise to put in place some on-going training requirements and also to adopt standard language for a pc order that includes a time limit either across the board or an agreed upon term determined by the parties at the time of the court order.  Plus, I want to see attorneys required to inform clients that the court cannot order a parenting consultant if a party does not agree to have one.  That does not happen very often.

I do have some things coming that I think will help the situation.  I am just not at the point where I can make my announcements yet.  Just know that some things are coming…soon.

Watch the news video and let me know what you think.  Did this new story help to raise awareness?

http://www.clipsyndicate.com/video/play/3898036

http://www.thelizlibrary.org/site-index/site-index-frame.html#soulhttp://www.thelizlibrary.org/parenting-coordination/parenting-coordination.html

http://www.thelizlibrary.org/site-index/site-index-frame.html#soulhttp://www.thelizlibrary.org/parenting-coordination/

The Destruction of Marriage

See, there's this thing called biology...

There are numerous articles and studies out right now that speak to the decline of marriage in the Western world, something that has now fallen below 50%. Some 70% of young men are not getting married.

Marriage is not really on the decline in America, it is actually being picked to death and deliberately dismantled.

Many feminists have been working towards the elimination of marriage for decades, thought to be a cornerstone of patriarchy and once eliminated will pave the way towards more equality. Many Men’s Rights advocates speak to the horrors of marriage, unfair divorce laws, economics, our legal system. There are MGTOW’s and men boycotting marriage. The LGBT lobby desires marriage rights for all and a complete redefinition of the entire concept of marriage. Our government has gotten in on the action too, and created numerous stumbling blocks to marriage, welfare policies, no default divorce, tax penalties, economic…

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