Saturday Songs-The Reason

Music is one of my passions.  It has helped me get through many painful life situations, helped me realize how deep my love can go and also helped me grow in faith.  When I went through difficult Family Court situations, this song helped me understand that I could change for my children.  Whenever I hear it, I think of my kids and the sacrifice I made to free them from a difficult situation that I had a hand in creating.  Because I helped create it, I could also be instrumental in undoing it.  You can, too.  What better reason to change than to be a powerful parent for your children?

Happy Saturday!  Blessings to you and your children.

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Bird Watching

Sparrow by Dan

Have you ever sat and watched birds?  There is such great symbolism available to apply to human life and when you stop to take in the awe of any of God’s creatures, it can bring some much-needed “Aha” moments.  I would encourage you to sometime sit and watch birds.

I remember when I was younger I used to see birdwatchers’ guide books all over the place and there were bird watching clubs out there, too.  I am not sure if there are any left in this day and age and it is a real shame if there isn’t.  Today, everyone is busy watching things on their iPhone.  Everyone wants technological answers to life, but the complexities of life can never be summed up on a website.  That is why God shows us the answers all around us if only we’d get off of our little technological machines and look at the world around us.  Nature provides beautiful answers and they are always at our disposal.  We don’t have to type anything into Google.  All we have to do is sit and patiently wait for it.

Just the other day, I was at a stop light, thinking about some life difficulties that I have been experiencing.  My thoughts were all about what direction I should go.  How can I meet my goals?  If I am to listen to God and follow his direction, why is this road I’m walking not an easier path for me?  I also had a big nagging question on my heart.  The question?  Should I just give up?  Go back to sleep?  Forget that God ever put me on this path in the first place and go live a simpler life?  God always tells me to keep at it and it frustrates me because it is a path of much resistance.  Sometimes I wonder why God would send me on this mission and not make the road easier and filled with helpers and resources and yet I believe that everything will happen in god’s timing, not mine.

So I was sitting there at a stop light, feeling disheartened and I saw them, two sparrows.  It was a windy day and I watched one of them try to fly from a roof to a nearby tree.  The wind kept pushing him in a different direction than he seemed to want to go.  There was another bird with him and that bird seemed to stay on course longer than the other, but they both were struggling to accomplish their goal and get to their destination.  As I watched them, I saw that they would try every few seconds, get taken off course by the wind, and head back to the roof.  When it seemed as though they had simply given up, you could see the winds had changed and when it did, they took advantage of having things going their way and effortlessly made their way to the tree.

This short presentation by nature made me realize that the birds know.  How can the birds know and deep down I know, too, but I question too much.  I doubt too often.  Of course God will get me there!  When the time is right!

Think of the messages that were delivered to me from the birds that day:

  1. Reaching your goals is not easy
  2. You will struggle
  3. You will be blown off course
  4. Timing is everything
  5. Sometimes, you have to wait for the winds to change
  6. When the right time comes, go for it

 

We can all learn a lot from birds.

 

 

Luke 12:22-27 And he said to his disciples, “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat, nor about your body, what you will put on. 23 For life is more than food, and the body more than clothing.24 Consider the ravens: they neither sow nor reap, they have neither storehouse nor barn, and yet God feeds them. Of how much more value are you than the birds! 25 And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?[a] 26 If then you are not able to do as small a thing as that, why are you anxious about the rest? 27 Consider the lilies, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin

I Can Only Imagine Movie Trailer

I am very much looking forward to this movie.  It looks amazing!

Many of the people I’ve worked with in the last 20 years are parents who experienced a traumatic family event.  Now, their own children struggle with a similar situation.  My goal is to help everyone get through it in the best way possible, which is not always easy, depending on the circumstances you find yourself in and the mindset of the people who are involved.  Even some of the professionals have scars that they carry, scars that create their own toxic contributions to conflict or family drama.  Still, no one should ever give up hope for a better family life.

I enjoy working with parents, regardless of what they have done in the past or how difficult their situations may appear on the surface.  While many shy away from “high conflict” families, I tend to embrace them, especially when I can work one on one with them.  Why?  Why do I do it?  It can certainly be painful and stressful.  It is often hard to watch parents who are hurting their children.  Many of them do not even realize their part in the struggle, but for those who take the little seed that I plant and let it grow, the results are amazing.  For that reason, even if there might only be a handful in hundreds, I am compelled to continue working with parents.  Once someone works through pain, trauma, abuse or anger and recognizes their own piece in the relationship puzzle, their eyes are opened.  They cannot un-know what they know.  They cannot undo the past, but they can create their future.  It is a blessing to see and the effects are not just in them, but ripple to others, children, friends, neighbors, and the community.  Parents willing to self reflect out of  pain and into peace to be awesome role models for their children are the greatest parents I know and I admire them deeply!

Please go see the movie, “I Can Only Imagine”.  I can already see the greatness within, even simply from getting a couple of minutes worth of a glimpse.  Have a glimpse of faith and hope.  I pray it plants a seed in you!

Uplifting Friday Spirit!

This lady has an awesome song, and story of faith.  Hang in there!  Keep hope.  All will be fulfilled.  From one who continues to stand faithful, even in some dark times, believe it.  All will be fulfilled!

http://bethelmusic.com/blog/breakthrough-in-infertility-amys-story/

What a Hopeful Song!

This song was written by Dolly Parton as she was experiencing the loss of a significant relationship.  This really captures that spirit when you have grieved the loss of something and are transitioning into the positive experience that loss ultimately brings.  Beautiful.

 

I’m not a country music fan, but will post Dolly Parton’s version also, just in case you are.

 

 

A Great story

A friend shared the following with me on Facebook.  It is a story from Spirit Science.  You can visit their website here.  Now to the story:

A well-known speaker started off his seminar holding up a $20.00 bill. In the room of 200, he asked, “Who would like this $20 bill?” Hands started going up. He said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this.”

He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill. He then asked, “Who still wants it…?” Still the hands were up in the air. “Well,” he replied, “What if I do this?” And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. “Now, who still wants it?” Still the hands went into the air.

“My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We may feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.

Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who DO LOVE you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE.

You are special-Don’t EVER forget it.” If you do not pass this on, you may never know the lives it touches, the hurting hearts it speaks to, or the hope that it may bring. Count your blessings, not your problems.